One week into 2026, I totaled the first car I ever owned: my beloved 14-year-old Nissan Altima.
The logical next step would’ve been to start car shopping, but between planning a wedding, saving up for a house, and navigating a career shift, 2026 was already shaping up to be expensive. Taking on a new car payment felt like working in direct opposition of my money-saving goals.
So, my fiancé and I decided to share his car. Two months into our new arrangement, I can say it’s been challenging but more worthwhile than I expected.
I worried that sharing a car would mean sacrificing independence
Abby Lane
I live in an area that isn’t particularly walkable, and public transportation isn’t a reliable option. So before I got into the accident, my fiancé and I were fortunate enough to operate as a two-car household.
Having our own cars gave us freedom, spontaneity, and independence — three things I value in a relationship.
When we decided to share a car, I worried I’d feel stuck at home if my partner had plans without me (and vice versa). What if we needed the car at the same time? Would having to coordinate every errand create tension? Would one of us quietly start to resent the other?
In the immediate aftermath of the accident, I was still commuting an hour round-trip for work. My fiancé works remotely, so the car defaulted to me most of the week.
Now, we both work from home, so things are less straightforward. No one has a claim over the car during business hours. Although that ambiguity can be frustrating, it’s helped us be more mindful of each other’s time and priorities and highlighted the ways we put one another first.
The financial gains are worth the trade-offs
The biggest benefit of sharing a car is the money we’re saving. By not replacing my car, I avoided another monthly payment. Even leasing or financing a used vehicle could’ve easily led to me spending a few hundred dollars a month. I’m also sidestepping maintenance, registration fees, and inevitable repairs.
We do occasionally spend money on rideshares, but those expenses are minimal compared to what it would cost to own and maintain a second car.
Every month without an additional car payment is money we can put toward our wedding and down payment funds. It’s given us a bit of breathing room.
That’s not to say it hasn’t been challenging. Sharing one car means we have to coordinate almost everything, from grocery runs to social plans. It requires more check-ins than we’re used to, but using a joint calendar and discussing plans further in advance has helped.
Sharing a car has taught us to work together in new ways
Abby Lane
The last thing I expected was for my accident — and our subsequent decision to share a car — to strengthen my relationship.
It’s forced us to be intentional as we plan together, communicate openly, and navigate the occasional bump in the road. We’re working as a team instead of living in our own little bubbles.
My fiancé has been incredibly generous and flexible throughout this transition. Watching him share without hesitation, and adjusting my own expectations in return, has made me pause and recognize how we show up for each other.
I don’t expect we’ll share a car forever, but I’m not in a rush to get my own. When I do start shopping, I want to choose one I’ll keep for years, not just a quick replacement for the one I lost.
However, I don’t anticipate making that purchase until after we’ve had our wedding and bought a home.
For now, we’re happy to trade a little comfort for space to save, plan, and focus on our shared goals. I’ve realized that true freedom and independence don’t come from a single item, like a car, but from what we’re building together in the long term.
