I grew up believing that I had to work hard, go to college, get a piece of paper, and unlock a decent life. My mom believed in it even more than I did.
In May 2026, we crossed the finish line together. I was 23, graduating from New York University with a degree in Film and Television, ready to launch a career in journalism and filmmaking. My mom was in her late 40s when she earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology after decades of putting her life on hold.
My mom raised me while taking care of family members
For as long as I can remember, my mom has been running on empty. Back in Alabama, she worked hospital shifts by day and cleaned corporate offices at night, riding public buses through the heat. She was also raising my brother and me, caring for my grandmother through cancer, and looking after my paralyzed uncle. Going to college felt impossible.
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When my grandmother and uncle died shortly before I finished high school in 2022, our family was grieving. But my mom also had a moment to think about what she wanted for herself. She decided to start college and pursue her psychology degree. In 2024, after my brother graduated from high school and headed to college in upstate New York, my mom packed up and moved out of Alabama. She settled in Albany to be closer to both of us. I was living in New York City, attending NYU.
From 2022 to 2026, we both worked toward our degrees. While I stayed up finishing college assignments, my mom balanced her nursing shifts with classes and the costs of building a new life in Albany.
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But graduating didn’t make the next steps any easier.
Getting a job as a recent graduate wasn’t easy
I thought an NYU degree would give me a real foot in the door. Instead, I entered a job market where entry-level roles demanded years of experience, while rent and groceries kept getting more expensive. I’ve had employers tell me during interviews that they loved my work and thought I’d be a great fit, only to never hear from them again. It happened more than once, and each time, it became harder not to wonder what I was doing wrong.
The numbers suggest I wasn’t alone. In the second quarter of 2026, 42% of recent college graduates were underemployed, according to the Federal Reserve Bank of New York. Finishing school didn’t guarantee a career. For many graduates, it meant entering a crowded job market and hoping someone would give them a chance.
My mom faced her own version of that wall. She’s currently working toward her master’s degree, hoping to eventually become a licensed therapist. In the meantime, she’s been trying to get her foot in the door through entry-level jobs such as behavioral health or psychiatric technician roles. Despite decades of frontline healthcare experience and a bachelor’s degree in psychology, applications went unanswered, and automated rejection emails kept arriving. After years of working and caring for others, she was still struggling to get someone to give her a chance.
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A few weeks after graduation, I sat with her in her living room as she refreshed her inbox. Another rejection came in. She closed her laptop and looked down at her framed diploma, exhausted.
If my mom was struggling to find work after everything she’d done, I couldn’t help wondering what my own degree would do for me. A degree can still make a financial difference.
In 2025, full-time workers aged 25 and older with a bachelor’s degree earned a median weekly wage of $1,578, compared with $966 for those with a high school diploma, according to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics. But those figures describe people who are already working full time. They don’t guarantee a recent graduate will land a job, earn those wages, or afford to live in the city where they’re trying to build a career.
For my mom, college was supposed to rewrite her story. For me, it was supposed to be the launchpad. When we look at our graduation pictures, the pride is real; neither of us will ever downplay what it took to survive those years. But a diploma can’t pay rent. A piece of paper can’t buy health insurance, a stable job, or peace of mind.
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My mom and I did what we were told would lead to a better life. We’re still trying to figure out when that life is supposed to begin.
We did everything right. Somehow, it doesn’t feel like enough anymore.
